Fate represents a profound spiritual meaning for me. A meaning that doesn't hold words to be expressed. I feel fate through a different language. It is a clear one, yet not tangible but embodied. The alphabet has not enough letters to express this extraordinary connection to the spirit which resonates in the body.
The first time I encountered that amazing embodied experience I was 13 years old after a tough period in my young life.
Middle School was quite hard for me. I experienced abuse and bullying daily, my best girlfriend turned on me, it was not cool to be my friend. I was so scared to go to class that I regularly pretended to be sick. I quarreled with this destiny of being me. I didn't belong, I didn't fit in, I didn't connect.
I felt a miserable doom was happening to me. I was trapped, not worthy to move.
My Fantasy World rescued me. Flying into my clouds was my only relief, no words need, no letters to defend myself. I could retreat to a cozy and safe world in which I had friends and even boys liked me. My Cloud World helped me to conquer these years and somehow I could imagine that I could give destiny a turn. After middle school, I decided to leave the village I grew up. I wanted to go to boarding school many clouds away from the old destiny.
At the Open House at the girls boarding school I felt FATE the first time the moment I noticed a girl sitting in front of me. She had freckles, a ponytail and wore glasses, just like me. I liked her instantly and wished nothing more than being her friend. And there was this moment which couldn't be embraced with any words, it goes beyond.
Meeting Alexandra changed the course of my life and I knew that is was not just a coincidence. We made it through school, started University, quit University, learned driving, survived heartbreaks, experienced thousands of adventures, watched sunrises, danced barefoot, reached for the highs and remained strong through the lows, discovered our souls. We created our own story. We became Thelma and Louise, with a Happy Ending. We are still living the Happy Ending. Although our lifestyles took different turns we are growing together, sometimes challenging each other and mainly being honest with each other.
I am convinced that it was fate we met. During the middle school years, I experienced everything that wasn't kindness and friendship in order to be able to receive the gift of true reciprocity. This was the first time I experienced that meeting a wonderful soul can change the texture and the taste of my life. And when that happens, I have to gather all the letters of the alphabet and create new magical words to express my gratitude. Love heals.
I believe that fate and destiny bring with them the opportunity for healing and the continual potential for growth. By paying attention and being curious we can listen to the different languages they both speak.
Noticing doesn't involve judgment, which I think is very important when we deal with fate and destiny. When we are connected to noticing we can recognize opportunities and possibilities.
I am sure that many philosophers and scholars found definitions by illuminating the difference between fate and destiny. I have never researched it, my ideas are shaped by my own experience.
For me, Fate is the connection to alignment, not logical, not explained, yet understood, clear and spiritually guided. Destiny represents meaningful events or deep encounters that can be (not always) accepted, changed, or shaped with will power, courage and determination.
Beyond all the words and every language, there is this embodied sense when everything is just as it is supposed to be. It might be just for one second, it might have a different meaning for everyone, but it is real and no letters of the alphabet are required to explain this moment.
It is beyond. It is sacred.
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